Have you ever been enjoying a sexual experience when, seemingly out of nowhere, shame shows up? Maybe you're feeling aroused. Your body is responding. You're beginning to enjoy yourself. And then something shifts. Suddenly there's guilt, disgust, embarrassment, or a vague feeling that you shouldn't be enjoying what's happening. You might start questioning yourself. Why am I feeling this way? What's wrong with me? Why can't I just relax and enjoy pleasure? I know this experien

What if the secret to having better orgasms isn't necessarily more stimulation, more concentration, or trying harder? What if part of the answer is learning how to get your brain out of the way? If you've ever been having an incredibly pleasurable sexual experience, feeling yourself getting closer and closer to orgasm, only to have your brain suddenly barge into the room asking, Are we there yet? Is this happening? What am I supposed to do now?—you know exactly what I'm t

I recently had the pleasure of joining clinical psychologist Dr. Nazanin Moali on her Sexology Podcast to explore exactly this phenomenon: Why can wanting an orgasm so badly actually make it harder to experience one? And what can we do to become more absorbed in our pleasure instead of getting stuck in our heads? We're talking about attention, nervous system awareness, cultural conditioning, our relationships with our bodies, and something I call the art of surrender.

By Melinda Love, Coach | Embodied Magic with Melinda Podcast What if learning how to have better orgasms and more satisfying sex isn't about trying harder, but learning how to experience pleasure differently? If you've ever struggled to reach orgasm, felt like your body wasn't responding the way you wanted it to, or found yourself getting so close only to lose the sensation, you're certainly not alone. And here's something I wish more women understood: Pleasure is something w